I'm 24 and I've been dating a woman who is twice my age for about twelve months. Thus far, my parents don't know about her though they are aware I am seeing someone. They have continued to ask if they could at least see a picture of her but I have always refused.
Recently, my parents have become more adamant to see who I'm dating and it's been evolving into a more contentious issue. Would you recommend me showing my parents a photo which could possibly alter our close relationship, or should I continue to be vague and secretive. Mike
I have to laugh at the last sentence in your email. You say you have a close relationship and yet you are being vague and secretive. Isn't that a contradiction?
I would suggest you speak to your father first - they are generally more accepting of Cougar relationships than mothers. Do not begin by saying you're dating a woman twice you age, as you did in your email. Tell him the truth: that you were afraid to reveal who you were dating because you thought it would alter your relationship and you didn't want that to happen.
At this point he may start to think you're gay, so tell him it's a woman who is quite a few years older. If he asks how many, say it's not polite to reveal a woman's age, but you'd be happy to show him a photo.
Afterwards, you can both decide how to "break it" to your mother, who may or may not be thrilled to hear that her son is dating a woman twice his age.
At the end of the day, no matter what their reaction, the important thing is that this is your life and you're free to date who you choose. If they are not totally accepting at first, they may eventually warm up to the idea once they meet her and see how happy you are.